NOTE: This entry was part of a blog I wrote called “Jesse 2.0” from 2010-2011. 

I received lots of great advice from my Facebook Friends yesterday after they noticed my relationship status change and read this blog. I will take it all to heart but here are the highlights. A lot of people gave me their phone numbers and if I thought I could talk without crying right now, I would put some of those to good use.

Long-term it is about me learning from my mistakes and taking steps to avoid them in the future, if for no other reason, to honor my ex-family. They are going through something worse than I am right now; thankfully they have each other. If you are praying for me you need to pray for them too. █ ███ ███ ███ █████ ███ █████ ███ , ███ ██ █ ███ ███ .

As hard as it is for my short-term recovery to be about me (especially because I am to blame for the divorce), it has to be. I have to find the positives about being alone, whether it’s leaving the toilet seat up or jamming to my favorite tunes up loud, or storm chasing when I want to. I have to rediscover myself to be happy again.

The most unique advice I received in regards to changing the look of the house, which I hadn’t thought of: “Put everything in a different cupboard to the one they were in last week.”

Several people recommended against having any quick flings with women, to which I lol’d. I think it’s going to be a long time before I am interested in relationships or flings. I’m really too old for that stuff, and I don’t think it’s possible to find another woman who was so perfect for me.

But the best advice came from within yesterday morning before I even posted to Facebook. And it is this that I must remember every day:

I can’t go back in the past to fix things. I can’t see into the future to know how bad they are going to get. So all I can do is work with what I have today.